A Stay At Home Mom’s Truth

I think we’ve all heard the complaints of a SAHM (stay-at-home mom), but like most things, you really don’t get it until you’ve done it.

I, like a lot of women, romanticized the idea of being a SAHM. The freedom to make your days how you want, getting to stay in sweat pants all day if you want, and the yogurt commercial-worthy bonding moments with your little ones. How could it not be awesome?

The Hard Truth

Well as you know if you are a SAHM, that’s just not reality. The thing is, it’s not really about WHAT YOU WANT anymore when you become a parent.

Your day doesn’t go how you want because now you have a small human, who probably doesn’t get empathy or emotional regulation yet, that also has a say in how your days go. A very big say because it’s their life too.

Not only do you have this new erratic human influencing your day, but you also have to somehow adult. You have to take this little human to run the errands, to fill out the paperwork, and usually to the bathroom with you as well.

Being a SAHM is not something to romanticize. It is hard, constant, exhausting work. It’s very beautiful though. I’m pretty sure I get a few yogurt commercial-worthy bonding moments in every week, but that’s really not what this article is about.

I tried being a stay-at-home mom for eight weeks. I like the stay-at-home part. Not too crazy about the mom aspect.

-Ali Wong

This article is about a call to support women and let them vent, complain, say their truth, without the very belittling “well that’s the choice you made.”

Yes it is my choice, and I’m so thankful and grateful to have been able to make that choice, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have hard days. We all have hard days. And that’s okay.

Finding balance as a mother means accepting your imperfections.

-Mary Organizes

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16 Comments on “A Stay At Home Mom’s Truth

  1. First of all…love Ali Wong, she is hilarious! And this is so true. I stay home Monday-Friday and work on the weekends. By far the hardest thing is staying home. I love it so much and wouldn’t have it any other way but it is exhausting!

  2. Such an insightful article! I agree, people think that it’s easy because you get to stay at home but it’s not easy. There are still things you have to get done, like cooking and cleaning, while caring for someone who is completely dependent on you. Great article, thanks for sharing! slo

  3. Love all of this! Being a stay-at-home mom is rewarding, but it can also be draining! I love that I am able to do it, but there are definitely hard days!

  4. Awesome article! Yes SAHM life is hard and I have a whole blog post on parental burnout related to this. I am a mom who stays at home with a new baby until they are toddlers then I go back to working as a nurse. I am a Cardiac nurse and I know doe a fact that both sides of the work fence have their challenges and we moms have to be intentional about self-care 😊

  5. There are definitely pros and cons to both sides! (Working & SAHM). I cried for hours once my maternity leave ended. I race home everyday to see my baby. I am incredibly jealous of SAHM life and hoping one day I will be lucky enough to be home full time. While I know the struggles, to me it would be oh so worth it! 🙂

    • I totally understand! It’s so hard to leave our babies. I also think it’s 100% to stay home. It can just be so hard sometimes, just like being a working mom can. I think we just need to support all women to be able to talk about their real feelings without being shamed.

  6. I always thought being a stay at home mom would be easy, but boy was I wrong! Some days I am just counting down the minutes until my husband gets home.

  7. Yes!! Staying home doesn’t mean I’m just hanging out. It is hard. Thank you for sharing this!

  8. Ohh this is so true I already write about the myths of being SAHM and how husband of SAHM play a critical role to make a happy family. You are so true its not that shiny thing people are expecting. You need to deal with lot of guilt and criticism over making very small mistakes. We as a stay at home need to support each other and feel proud about the decision we make.

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