Motherhood is challenging. I’ll keep saying it on repeat because I never want to mislead anyone. Motherhood will push you in every way; testing your patience, your ability to communicate, your expectations, your plans, and well, EVERYTHING. Motherhood changes everything. That is okay, and even great, if you allow it to be. Motherhood can teach you how to be more peaceful and intentional. I know, it’s contradictory. Motherhood can make you lose every last bit of your sanity but it can also push you to find and hold tight to your inner peace.
You’ll quickly learn, without intentionality, motherhood is utter chaos. Don’t confuse being intentional with being planned or organized. I by no means am discussing being more organized, having a sparkling home, following a long written-out schedule or any of those more surface level ways of honing motherhood. I am, however, discussing planning your thoughts, your reactions, and your way of being with your children. When I discuss intentional motherhood, I mean planning the mother you want to be and putting into action your desired qualities rather than living moment to moment trying to respond to each issue on the fly.
Becoming an intentional mother means deciding who you want to be as a mother and making it happen. It DOES require planning, but don’t worry, you can put your schedule away. This kind of planning requires deep reflection, personal assessment, and really getting to know who you are and who your children are.
“The key is not to prioritize your schedule but to schedule your priorities.” Steven Covey
The goal of this challenge is to start chipping away at thriving as a mother: Stop kicking into survival mode and actually start being the mother you want to be. Don’t worry. This is a judgement free zone. I, by no means, have it all figured out. I’m in survival mode much more than I want to be, which is why I decided to make this challenge. I know I’m not alone. I know there are so many of us who just want to catch our breath and start being the mom we always intended to be. I’ve started down the road of intentional motherhood and wanted to help you get started as well. I know you’re busy, so daily practices to become more intentional will never ask for more than 30 minutes of your time.
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“An unintentional life accepts everything and does nothing. An intentional life embraces only the things that will add to the mission of significance.” John C Maxwell
10 Minute Journal Session- Jot down notes on the mother you want to be. Note any fictional mothers who have inspired you or characteristics of mothers you want to embody. If you’re feeling extra inspired, include a photo of some motherly inspirations.
Make a list of 5 affirmations you want to use daily to embody the characteristics you want to hone as a mother.
Here are my affirmations for inspiration-
10 Minute Journal Session- Define peace. What does peace look like to you? How do you enact peace as a mother?
Make a list of daily priorities (be realistic or it won’t help). Where does bonding with your child fall? Where does self care fall on your list? Can you rewrite the list to be more aligned with your values?
10 Minute Journal Session- What are your intentions as a mother? What qualities and values do you want your children to have? How do you or how can you role model these qualities and values?
List 5 Goals You Want To Accomplish As A Mother
Define each goal clearly and how you can accomplish the goal. Post your 5 Goals somewhere you will see them daily.
10 Minute Journal Session- What makes you feel like a “bad” mother? What are the parenting characteristics you want to change in yourself?
Revisit your affirmations- Have you been saying them daily? Are there any you want to change or add? Are any particularly helpful?
10 Minute Journal Session- What would a perfect day look like as a mother? What could you do to make each day more similar to your perfect day?
List and put into action 3 ways to bond with your child today. Try to make a list for each of your children.
My ways to bond list:
10 Minute Journal Session- Reflect on bonding plans. What worked? What didn’t work? What could you do differently next time?
Be vulnerable. Talk with your significant other and/or your kids about the kind of mother you want to be. Get their feedback on how you could be more aligned with your parenting goals.
10 Minute Journal Session- When is it hardest to be intentional and parent how you intended? What can you change about the environment and your actions to make these times less common?
Focus on one parenting goal. Reflect on how you can accomplish that goal today. Write yourself a list of tips and reminders and leave them in a noticeable place that will help you stay on track throughout the day.
10 Minute Journal Session- What have you learned about your parenting? Would you adjust your parenting goals? What are ways you can continue to be a more intentional parent?
“Be the change you want to see in the world.” Mahatma Gandhi
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